This is a common question and lots of people think there is a simple answer to it. However, if life were that simple, we wouldn’t need counselors. More the question you should be asking yourself is, “What can YOU do to change your relationship?”
I know there are a lot of authors out there that offer five “simple” ways or steps to change your relationship. John Gottman, a marriage researcher, has a book called, The Seven Principles to Making a Marriage Work.
I really think it boils down to you, what are YOU willing to do to challenge your relationship? What are you willing to do to change how you interact with your spouse? You have so much influence over your life and your relationship.
So many couples don’t take the initiative to use that influence for good. A lot of the time, we use that influence to get our own way or get ahead in our relationship, to prove a point or keep score. If you can use your influence in your relationship to influence it for good, that is really the first step in changing your relationship.
What can I do to change my relationship? That is what counselors are for. At Harmony Counseling, we help couples take that next step in understanding what they can do to change their relationship. I hope this helps and if you do want to contact us, you can see the information below and we would be happy to help you. Thanks and have a great day.