Parenting During Pregnancy & The First Year
Being a new mother can be an exciting but delicate time in a woman’s life. The perinatal period is the time during pregnancy though the baby’s first birthday, and for many mother’s, this is an extremely difficult time. Therapy can help with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, adjustment to mothering roles, and finding work-home balance. Dana knows first-hand how hard being a new parent can be until you get the hang if it.
You are NOT alone!
One in seven women who are pregnant or in the first year after giving birth will have a postpartum mood or anxiety disorder. If you are pregnant or a new mom and are are struggling with more bad days than good, crying frequently, struggling to sleep when there is time to sleep, feeling anxious, overwhelmed, hopeless, or having thoughts and feelings that are not like yourself, speaking with a trained professional may help you feel like “you” again.
Does seeking help as a new mom mean I am a bad mom?
Left untreated, post-partum disorders can have a negative impact on your baby and your spouse. But, having a post-partum disorder in no way means you are not a good mother or that it is somehow your fault. There is no shame in taking care of yourself in order to best care for your child.
Shouldn’t my maternal instincts be enough?
Our culture puts tremendous pressure on new moms to have a baby, be nurturing, get back to work in six or eight weeks (if you work outside the home), and lose the baby weight, all while expecting moms to “glow” with the joys of infancy.
The truth is your body did exactly what it was designed to do in creating a new life, and now it is recovering and you are adjusting physically, mentally, and emotionally. In the past, women had fewer responsibilities outside the home and lived near relatives and life-long friends who would help with the post-partum period. Now, most moms are parenting with less external supports and higher expectations to return to other obligations. Therapy is one way to provide support for this transition.
I can tough this out at home.
If you are having more bad days than good, that is not normal. Consider the mother you want to be for your child. Do you want to be present and engaged or distracted with your own emotions of fear, guilt, or sadness? You could risk pushing through the symptoms and get better, or it could get worse, during which you risk missing out on the early days of your child’s life. When treated, perinatal and mood anxiety disorders have good outcomes and you can better enjoy being a parent.
It’s not fair.
We understand that feeling down, angry, or anxious was not how you envisioned the early days of parenting. You see other moms breeze through the transition to mothering and feel like you must be doing something wrong. The truth is that each mother has unique circumstances, combined with the characteristics of the baby, that contribute to how likely a mother is to have perinatal complications.
A mom who sails through her first pregnancy may find her transition with a second child more difficult. While it is unfair that you are hurting, comparing yourself to others only makes you feel worse. You are a valuable person worth taking care of and the sooner you invest in getting better, the faster you will feel like yourself again.
Yes, it is possible to feel like you again. Please feel free to call for a free consultation to get a sense of whether you think Dana could be helpful to you.
Parenting Support with Older Children
Being a parent is a wonderfully-difficult job. Sometimes it helps to process parenting concerns with a trained professional who is also a parent. Dana believes that parents “have what it takes” to be the parent their child needs, but that doesn’t mean there are not still times when parents can benefit from outside support and encouragement. Dana is trained in many methods for helping with parenting concerns surrounding parent-child relationship friction and child or adolescent behavior.
How Do I Get Started Feeling Like Myself Again?
Call 678-381-3493 now to schedule an appointment. If I am unavailable, please leave a message on my confidential voicemail and I will return your call during my next available time slot.